Couples Coaching
“A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short”
Dreaming together
My wife Emma and I both love coaching. We discussed for years doing this together and coaching couples. Both of us had first marriages which were less than ideal, though we grew through these journeys. Our years of friendship and life together have introduced us to a depth of connection and joy at every level of life. We delight in helping others achieve this as well. Emma, has coached people for years in both personal, professional, and corporate settings using her mindful insight, attunement, and wisdom to help others move toward flourishing. She is also in the process of completing a Masters. We find great joy in coaching together when people desire the perspectives we both bring. Her perspective is obviously one I deeply respect.
Our journey… Being changed by the unexpected
Life is an adventure if we hold on tight to what is safe we will never reach the summit — a high place in life that requires risks to achieve. Our journey of finding each other and falling in love was unexpected. Society, family, friends all believed our age difference and other factors meant we should not love each other, yet grow in love we did. We each bring a unique perspective to couples coaching. Emma has her frame as a woman who has worked through traumas to find joy. Her openness to life often leaves her overwhelmed and her work in part is bringing balance to what her natural openness results in for her. I, on the other hand, often shut life out to survive and have to overcome struggles with vulnerability, and being mindful of self and life to bring balance to my life. I shared this because each couple brings a unique struggle to their joint journey. Emma and I continue to learn that: together we slog through the mud and grow toward beauty, together we take risks and climb summits, together we find joy. Together we love to help others.
the mud and the lotus
"The lotus cannot be there without the mud. Likewise, happiness can not be there without suffering. Looking deeply into our suffering, we gain an understanding of it, which gives happiness a chance to blossom. There is no relationship which does not bring suffering. To love is to suffer.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
“Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements.” — C.S. Lewis
“Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right.” — Jane Goodall